How to Use Personal Stories to Connect with Kids

Whether you’re teaching a creative large group program or leading a small group or Sunday School class, personal stories can be one of the most effective tools you can use to connect with the kids you lead. It’s amazing how a simple story can reel in kids who would otherwise be bouncing off the walls.

Kids love stories. Some of their favorite stories are about the childhood adventures of adults just like you.

The great thing about this tool is that we all have a lifetime of stories. Here are a few ways you can use them this week to capture kids’ attention:

1. Ice breakers

Personal stories make a great way to start a lesson. When teaching on God rescuing lost people, I opened with a story about a time I got separated from my mom in a department store. I started by asking the question, “Who’s ever been lost?” They were engaged from the first sentence.

2. Application

Stories about how you learned a lesson and applied it to your life help kids see a practical example of how the Bible truth you’re teaching might play out in their own lives. After you tell your story, connect the dots by saying, “Okay, that might not ever happen to you, but you might deal with something like that. Think about how God could help you in that kind of situation.”

3. Consequences

By telling kids about the times you made the wrong choice, you can help them to see the potential consequences of not doing life God’s way. Kids are shocked and awed by stories of the times you acted selfishly and got burned by your own foolishness.

Now that you know how you can use your stories, consider these guidelines when busting them out this weekend with your kids:

1. Make sure it’s relevant.

Just because it’s a great story doesn’t mean it will help you teach kids God’s truth. Only use stories that actually tie in to what you’re trying to communicate. Otherwise, you’re just filling time.

2. Use common sense.

The story about the time you broke your brother’s bike is probably a better choice than the story about the college spring break trip where you ended up in jail. Make sure your stories are age-appropriate. When in doubt, leave it out.

3. Take advantage of friends, families and photo albums.

Think you don’t have any stories to use for that lesson on generosity? Ask those who knew you when you were younger or check out old pictures to help jog your memory. Try journaling too. The more stories I write down, the more I remember.

4. Tell other people’s stories.

Stories about your own kids or other kids you know can be just as effective if you don’t have one about you that fits the situation. Just make sure you’re not embarrassing any kids in the room (including your own) by telling their stories without permission. Stories that are no big deal to you could be mortifying to a seven-year-old.

Whatever you’re talking about this week, use your experiences to impact the lives of the kids God sends your way. Who knows, maybe some day they’ll be telling stories of their own about an amazing teacher who told them a story that changed their life.

Team Teaching Part 2: Cast of Characters

In the first post in our team teaching series, we looked at how much fun it can be to pull in another person to act out the Bible story as you tell it.  But today we’re going to go bigger and talk about what it looks like to add two or more actors to the story in a technique I call Cast of Characters.  This isn’t nearly as complicated as it might sound and gives you more flexibility than just using the single actor we talked about last time.

Just to show you what I mean, here’s an excerpt from a story I wrote a few years ago about Elijah and the poor widow from 1 Kings 17:

Narrator

Okay, so think about this. Elijah wasn’t just asking this poor widow to give away her extra stuff.  This flour and oil was all she had.  

Widow

You’re tellin’ me!

Narrator

If she gave this to Elijah, she and her son wouldn’t have anything. Did she really believe God was her provider? Could she really trust Him to give her everything she needed? For this poor widow it was decision time.

Widow

(Elijah & Narrator hum Jeopardy music while Widow paces back and forth rubbing her chin.) Hmmm, hmmm, hmmm. (Humming stops.  Elijah and Narrator look at Widow expectantly.) Okay, I’ll do it!

Elijah

Yes!

Narrator

The widow went home, mixed the oil and flour, baked the bread, and gave it to Elijah to eat.  

(Widow comes back wearing a chef’s hat, gives Elijah bread and he takes a bite.)

Elijah

(mouth stuffed full) Mmm, that’s delicious!

Narrator

And then something absolutely incredible happened. The jar of flour filled right back up (Widow holds up jar with exaggerated surprised expression.)  And the jug of oil? (Widow holds up jug with exaggerated surprised expression.) Same thing. It was amazing.

Elijah & Widow  

That’s amazing!

As you can see this technique can be a blast.  You can use it for a wide variety of stories, but it works best with big stories that either involve several characters (like the Christmas story) or just have a lot of ground you need to cover like the Elijah story.

In this particular lesson we get to see Elijah confronting Ahab, being fed by ravens in the wilderness, helping the poor widow and having a showdown with Ahab on Mt. Carmel, all of which would probably be a bit much for a single storyteller to tackle on their own.  

Here are a few tips to make the most of storytelling with multiple actors.  

  1. Take a look at your Bible story and think about how you would explain it to the kids if you were just telling it by yourself.  Then look for places in the story where it would make sense to bring it to life with actors.  
  2. Keep the narrator in the driver’s seat. The narrator is still the primary storyteller who introduces the story, transitions from scene-to-scene, teaches along the way and wraps the whole thing up at the end.  
  3. Use the actual dialogue you find in Scripture whenever possible but feel free to paraphrase or shorten it so that it makes sense to kids and keeps the story moving.  
  4. Use actors to play multiple characters. Kids love to see actors appearing in different hats or costumes as various characters. The quick change element and all the silliness that comes with it are part of what makes this technique fun to watch.  I generally like to use three actors if I’m telling the story this way because it gives me a lot of options. 
  5. Create a temporary “backstage” area for your actors to enter and exit the teaching area, switch out costumes and props and participate in the story even when “off stage.”  For example, in the Elijah story I had my actor who played Ahab toss plastic food at Elijah from backstage when the ravens showed up to feed him. You can create your backstage area using folding room dividers like these or by making one out of 2’x6’ panels of plywood with hinges or by hanging up a shower curtain on a clothes line.  
  6. Keep costumes simple. In our example, Elijah wore a middle eastern style vest, Ahab wore a crown and a cape and the poor widow had a piece of fabric draped over her shoulders like a shawl.  
  7. Rehearse! Practice is important when you’re teaching by yourself, but it’s mission critical when you have a cast of characters up there with you.  You’ll need to practice entrances and exits and how characters will use costumes and props.  Plus, rehearsals will keep things moving so unprepared actors don’t create dead space during the lesson that may cause the kids to tune you out. We’ll have more details on rehearsals a few posts from now. 

If you’re a little nervous about trying this out, don’t be.  Just give it a shot once and see how your kids react.  Try it at a special event like a Christmas or Easter service or VBS.  It’s sometimes easier to recruit actors for a big event rather than a regular Sunday lesson, but once they get a taste of it, don’t be surprised if you find them coming back and asking for more.

Post-Covid Storytelling Tips

Since Covid-19 swept across the world in 2020, it seems like everything has been harder. That includes Children’s Ministry and capturing kids’ imaginations with the wonder of God’s Word.  

At the time I’m writing this, many churches are still meeting virtually or at least not offering programming for kids. Others of us have reopened, but our environments feel a bit different than they did a year ago. Some of the differences may include:

  1. A smaller number of kids
  2. Kids and leaders wearing masks
  3. Kids and leaders social distancing
  4. Kids not being able to share props or supplies
  5. Heightened levels of anxiety for kids and leaders

These are just a few factors you might be facing when you reopen your Children’s Ministry. At the very least it creates a different vibe in the room and can make it more challenging to engage with your kids.

With that in mind, here are a few tips that can help you ramp up your storytelling in this unique season.

  1. Be intentional.  Just know going into every teaching experience you’re going to have to bring your A game. Pray hard, know your story inside and out and be ready to bring the most entertaining version of yourself to the room. You are the thermostat, and it’s to you to set the temperature for your audience. The more you lighten up and have fun, the more it will give the kids the permission to have a blast along with you.
  2. Engage kids from the beginning.  Have upbeat music playing before kids walk into the room so your environment will feel friendly and exciting. Greet kids enthusiastically and tell them how glad you are to see them and how much fun you’re going to have today. Call kids by name.   
  3. Go big in your storytelling. Use big gestures, exaggerated facial expressions (even if you’re wearing a mask, especially if you’re wearing a mask) and use lots of variety in your voice (speed up, slow down, get loud, get quiet) to pull kids into the story.  
  4. Make your lessons HIGHLY interactive.  All in all I’ve noticed our kids are quieter and more hesitant.  That means if I’m presenting, I need to give them several opportunities to participate in the teaching.  
    1. Motions & response phrases: you could give kids a fun way to respond to an opening game, application game or help tell the story. For example, I once told the story of Gideon where I would hold up one of two signs throughout the lesson. One had a muscular knight on it and the other a cat with its fur standing up.  When I held up the knight, kids would say, “Mighty warrior, huh!” and make big muscles, and when I held up the scaredy cat they would put their hands on their faces and yell, “Yikes!” We practiced ahead of time and I peppered it throughout the story to keep kids participating as I highlighted times when Gideon and his enemies were courageous or frightened.
    2. Repeat prayers: have kids repeat a prayer one phrase at a time so they don’t just tune you out when you pray. For example before the lesson you may pray something like, “God / we love You / Please help to hear / what You have to say / today / Amen.” The slashes represent the chunks I would give kids to repeat before I moved onto the next one.
  5. Have fun!  The more you get into it and have fun, the more your kids will go along for the ride.  

The great thing is that all the techniques I just listed really apply just as well to storytelling before, during or after the pandemic. Many of them would also work if you’re teaching kids virtually right now. So no matter what season you and your kids are in these tips will help set you up to win. 

As always, it all comes down to doing whatever you can to earn the kids’ attention and draw them into the world of the Bible as you lead them to Jesus. That’s the goal of what we do no matter what other challenges we face.  

Team Teaching Part 1: Act It Out

I’m a huge fan of solo storytelling. I believe that a well-prepared teacher who uses solid storytelling techniques can captivate an audience with God’s Word like nobody’s business.

However, there are definitely times when you can make your stories even more interesting by involving other storytellers.  

In the next few posts, I’m going to show you a few of my favorite ways to do this that always work great with an audience of kids.  

The only downside to team teaching is that sometimes it can make rehearsals a bit more complicated (and trust me, you’ll need them), but don’t let that stop you. The pay off is totally worth it! And don’t worry. I’ll give you some tips to help with rehearsals after we talk about a few different team teaching techniques.  

Today we’re going to start with an easy one, a method I call Act It Out. Not brilliant, I know, but it describes it well. 

This method is simple and fun. You tell the story and someone else acts it out as you go.  The actor may slip in and out of various costumes, use props, run around the room and do whatever you need them to do to bring the story to life.

Here’s an example of how I used this idea recently to tell the story of the life of Peter:

STORYTELLER

This is a story about a guy named Simon Peter.  We’ll call him Pete.  Hey Pete!

PETE

(waves) What’s up?

STORYTELLER

Back in the day, Pete used to be a fisherman. 

PETE

(Pete puts on a fishing hat, picks up fishing pole and pretends to cast his line and reel it in.)

They’re bitin’ today boys!

STORYTELLER

Uh, not that kind of fisherman.  In those days they used nets. 

PETE

Doh! (Drops pole, picks up net with stuffed fish attached to it)  They’re bitin’ today boys!

STORYTELLER

But one day Jesus came along and invited Pete to follow Him.

PETE

Woo-hoo!

As you can see, this story is lighthearted, and moves fast, going back and forth between the narrator and actor with short lines to keep the story moving. However, you could also use this for stories with a more serious tone and give the actor a longer chunk of dramatic monologue.

Generally speaking when you’re using this method, you would want your actor to stay in character, but you can also have fun with the narrator and actor interacting like I did in these lines from the same lesson:

STORYTELLER

Jesus was not happy about that.  He told Pete to get behind Him or get out of his way. He even called Pete Satan . . .

PETE

What!?!

STORYTELLER

. . . because Pete was trying to get in the way of God’s plan.

PETE

Who me?

STORYTELLER

Yes, you.  Jesus also went on to tell His friends that one of them would betray Him and the rest would all run away and leave Him, but Pete said . . .

PETE

Never! I will never leave your side, Lord!

STORYTELLER

Yeah, right.  Jesus told Pete he would lie about knowing Jesus three times before the rooster crowed the next morning. 

For these stories you can do them with both storytellers memorized or the narrator can read their part from a script (if they’re very familiar with it and can keep strong eye contact with the kids). Generally I’m not a fan of teaching with notes or scripts but in this set up, it’s part of the act and not distracting if done well. When I’m using this method I like to use a ½” black binder for my script. It looks clean and blends in on stage.

Whether the narrator uses a script or not, though, the actor needs to be totally memorized so they are free to get into character, use props, etc. However, one big advantage of the narrator having a script is they can help keep the actor on track (especially handy if your actor likes to go big and ham it up) and bring them back if they get lost in the story.   

In my next post, I’ll show you the more complicated version of Act It Out, how to involve multiple actors, and will share some examples of how that’s worked for me in the past.  Down the road we’ll also talk about a method I call Tandem Teaching and will hit some important tips to help with rehearsing these team teaching lessons. 

The Power of Storytelling

Last fall I had the opportunity to sit down with my friends at the D6 Podcast to have a conversation about the power of storytelling. In this interview we talk about practical tips for bringing the Bible to life that anyone can use.

You can check out a 5 minute video clip of that interview here or the audio of the full interview here.

Here are a few highlights:

  • If you want to bring the Bible to life for kids, first you have to let God bring the Bible to life in you. Before you teach, spend time in God’s word discovering what God has to say to you, and it will not only help you personally but it will energize your storytelling.
  • Great storytelling is a combination of what you say (content) and how you say it (preparation). Here’s an expanded version of the cake illustration I use to show how this works.
  • Everyone is a natural storyteller. You already get excited and tell great stories about the things you love (your hobbies, your kids, your dreams, etc). You just have to learn to access that entertaining version of you in your storytelling.
  • Use simple visuals to help kids engage with your story. In the podcast I give several examples of how to use everyday items that you can borrow or may have around your house.
  • You don’t need a bunch of bells and whistles (stages, sets, lights, etc) to tell a great story. In fact sometimes those things can get in the way. Here are more tips about using (or not using) tech to teach.
  • Parents tell more stories to their kids than anyone else. Here are some ideas to help parents tell compelling Bible stories at home.

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